Creating A Divorce Safety Plan In Case Of Domestic Abuse

If you are in danger, call 911 immediately. Prepare a safety plan, which can be done with help. Assistance is usually free or at a minimal cost, and multiple languages are available. For more information, contact the California Partnership to End Domestic Violence and the National Domestic Violence Hotline.

Before and After an Attack

Escape if an attack is imminent. If you fear severe harm, take your children and leave, even at night. Seek shelter at a domestic violence center or a trusted person's home. If you can't escape, defend yourself and document injuries with photos. Don't hesitate to call for help; scream loudly and don't feel embarrassed. Stay near exits, away from weapons, kitchens, and bathrooms. Practice your escape route and keep a packed bag hidden but accessible.

Identify neighbors who can help and ask them to call the police if they hear violence. Use code words with neighbors, children, friends, and family to signal them to call the police. Know your destination if you need to flee. Trust your instincts and do whatever is necessary to survive.

Living Alone

Change locks on all doors and windows quickly. Request an unlisted number from your phone provider. Teach your children safety procedures for when you're not available. Ensure your child's daycare or school knows who is authorized to pick them up.

Divorce Mediation in California

To learn more about the divorce process in California and how mediation can help once you are safe, visit our page on divorce mediation or contact California Divorce Mediators.