How To Handle Going Through A Divorce
It definitely isn’t easy handling life after a divorce. After having spent a significant amount of time with that person, it is a huge change physically, mentally and emotionally to move on in life knowing that the person will not be a part of your life anymore but also knowing that the memories and times you’ve shared together will remain forever and will be hard to erase.
How to help yourself or help someone else while going through a divorce
Having a strong support group of family and friends while going through a divorce can really help pull you out of that rut. if you are going through a divorce or if you know somebody who is going through a divorce there are a lot of different ways to deal with it without resorting to substance abuse or falling into depression. Here are a few positive ways to handle a divorce –
Start seeing a therapist or counselor – there is absolutely nothing wrong in seeking some help from an expert while handling a divorce. Having someone leave you or leaving someone can come as a real shock and a therapist, psychologist or psychiatrist will have the training, knowledge and experience to help you get through these tough times.
Love yourself – never stop loving yourself, your mind and your body, as your self-esteem can get pretty low after a divorce. Keep telling yourself how much you love yourself every day and do things that make you happy. Eat your favorite foods, pamper yourself at a spa and shower yourself with love, positive vibes, and strong energy.
Start working – if you weren’t working during the marriage then get a job that you love or that you’re qualified for as soon as possible to get your mind off the divorce. Working and earning your own money will give you a sense of independence emotionally and financially and will give you reassurance that you don’t need a spouse to rely on for anything. You might even make a few good friends at the new workplace. Meeting people every day is important to prevent you from going into a possible state of clinical depression.
Don’t shut yourself out completely to the idea of dating again – sure, you may need some time to yourself right after a divorce but don’t shy away from the possibility of finding love again. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off and if someone is showing a love interest in you, don’t hesitate to go out on a date with them. If you need to take time in the new relationship, given the divorce, be honest and open with them about it.
To learn more about the divorce process in California and how mediation can help, please visit our page, What is Divorce Mediation.
Gerald A. Maggio is a trained Irvine divorce mediator who has amicably resolved cases many cases out of court, as well as an experienced divorce and family law attorney. Mr. Maggio founded California Divorce Mediators in 2012 with the belief that although “not every marriage can be saved, every family can” and a mission to save families from the financial and emotional distress associated with traditional divorce litigation. California Divorce Mediators is located in Irvine, California, and serves the Orange County area and other counties in California offering divorce mediation, child custody mediation and mediation of other family law matters.
