How To Focus On Your Kids In A Divorce
When you are getting a divorce, your children are your most important worry. But, do not be sad, as studies prove that children can cope up with the divorce of their parents and even come out okay. Now, this may not always be the case. There are several kids who get emotionally wounded when their parent’s divorce. The wounds can stay on for the rest of their lives. Here are some of the steps you can take to make them feel secure and to convince them that they are not responsible for your divorce.
Reaffirm with your spouse that the emotional well-being of your child is a mutual priority
While you and your spouse may cease being together, that does not mean that you will not remain parents for your child. So, keep reciting this thought to yourself whenever you are mad at your former wife or husband. This thought should be also articulated to your ex whenever you interact.
While the divorce negotiations are on, try not arguing with your ex. While this action will need a lot of maturity and self-restraint, it should be attempted for the best interests of your kids. If it is essential, you can attend counseling together.
Demonstrate your maturity to your child or children all through the divorce proceeding
Steps like trying to go for litigation that may create animosity with your ex should be avoided as far as possible. Rather, you can opt for meditation to get your peace of mind. Try resolving your financial issues faster and then just move on.
Both the parents should remain involved in their child’s life for the latter’s best interest
To achieve this status quo, parents can opt for shared custody. Alternatively, it can also mean that the children stay with only one parent but meet the other one frequently. Such an initiative will increase the possibilities of your children’s emotional well-being remaining intact. Keep reiterating to yourself that the children require both their mother and father. It is irrelevant whether you can excel as an excellent single parent or not. It is important that your child does not feel abandoned due to the actions of one of the parents.
Overnight visitation arrangement can be stressful for your kids
It may not be easy for your children to constantly move from one home to the next. All children require additional support during these times. The children should have the liberty to be open about the distress they are going through from their other parent and get empathy from the parent they are living with.
To learn more about the divorce process in California and how mediation can help, please visit our page, What is Divorce Mediation.
Gerald A. Maggio is a trained Orange County divorce mediator who has amicably resolved cases many cases out of court, as well as an experienced divorce and family law attorney. Mr. Maggio founded California Divorce Mediators in 2012 with the belief that although “not every marriage can be saved, every family can” and a mission to save families from the financial and emotional distress associated with traditional divorce litigation. California Divorce Mediators is located in Irvine, California, and serves the Orange County area and other counties in California offering divorce mediation, child custody mediation and mediation of other family law matters.
